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Divorce & Children: Transitioning Into New Traditions

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As an adult, going through a divorce brings a lot of big changes to your life and daily activities overall. Now imagine all of those changes through the perspective of a young child. The transition from a married couple into single parents should feel as seamless as possible for a child. No matter what point your relationship is at, keep the child's best interest, which is better for everyone in the long run.

One of the best ways to help a child get through the divorce process is by beginning the transition process as soon as possible. Implementing changes gradually will help a child transition so everything doesn't always happen at once. At first the changes may be subtle and then a little more direct for big events.

Every child is different, but follow our guide to get the best out of the situation and find multiple ways to help transition.

Single Parent Meal Dates

When going out for a meal, a child may be used to enjoying the food with both parents. One of the easiest ways to begin the transition process is by taking your child out for a meal on your own. Doing this before anything is legally complete will help you set the seeds for what's to come in the future.

To help put the focus on the child and not the missing parent, allow the child to pick a location. Ideally, you may choose to eat somewhere you've never eaten before so new traditions will begin between you and your child.

The meal dates are a great way to bond and fit easily into your personal schedule. This transition does not need to be limited to a single parent either. Both parents may choose to go on meal dates with their children at separate times. If eating out isn't your thing, then you may choose to prepare a meal at home with your child.

New Holiday Traditions

As you work with a divorce lawyer on setting up holiday schedules and visitation, you should also consider the transition period for specific holidays and traditions. Divorces may take months to complete and you can’t stop the arrival of a holiday as it approaches.

Create new traditions for holidays or put a twist on old traditions. Whether you actually have the child on the holiday doesn't mean you cannot celebrate the spirit of the season and create fun activities. For example, even if you do not get Halloween night with your child, you can still celebrate Halloween with them by going to a haunted hayride or a haunted house. Even something as simple as watching a child-themed scary movie at home could help create new traditions.

The same type of ideas apply around Christmas and other winter holidays. Focus on new traditions and ways to focus on the celebration of the holiday rather than the divorce or major changes. Your child may have questions about past traditions and being apart from the other parent, but focusing on the positive aspects will help the child in the long run.

New Traditions While You're Away

Inevitably, no matter what type of child custody agreement you come to, there will be times when you are not with your child. To help keep up communications and help them feel at peace, you may look into starting some new traditions while you're away.

For example, you may do something as simple as sending a goodnight text each night before bed. You may use video calls to connect with the child. You could also hide a hand-written letter in their backpack or sleeping gear. Basically, you want to reassure them that you are there for the child even if you are not physically present.

For all of your questions about divorce and custody agreements, contact us at Novack Law Offices. We are here to help you through each step in the process.


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